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Category: Divorcing and Pressing On

Drops

Drops

I sat awake last night memorized by the gentle rainfall. Rain is always a mixed blessing on the boat. On the one hand the drops hitting the tin roof that covers the slips create their own sort of meditative melody. It’s a somewhat natural song that combines with the wind and the tiny splashes of rain drops hitting to lake itself creating a musical effect that shouts both strength and peace in one single verse. On the other hand, the…

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"Shattering Masks" Preview – Opening Chapter 6

"Shattering Masks" Preview – Opening Chapter 6

We are halfway through our weekend fundraising effort and we still have a ways to go before we reach the goal. I was asked to share an excerpt from the book and I am more than happy to oblige! This is one of my favorite moments in the story where my perspective on growing and healing took a turn for the better. I hope you enjoy it! Chapter 6 “It’s a new day and I’m learning that if my mind…

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The Real Threat to the American Family

The Real Threat to the American Family

Let me start with a few disclaimers: I have never claimed the title “artist” as it relates to me drawing. (#nakedpastor has nothing to worry about!) I’m well aware that marriage is not all about sex…I’m also well aware that it is somewhat about sex, or at its very root – intimacy. Finally, I realize that there are many for who sex is not a physical possibility. Please read this with my understanding, compassion and with what ever filter make…

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Publishing "Shattering Masks"

Publishing "Shattering Masks"

I have a story to tell. It’s one of hurt, struggle, faith, family and affirmation. The reason I want to tell it is that I know there are still so many out there dying in the shadows who will relate to my journey and hopefully, with a little encouragement, step into the light. I know that there are also families, pastors, civic leaders, law makers and entire communities wrestling with this issue of what to do with people who are not like themselves….

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Sadness

Sadness

It’s the end of February. It’s 75 degrees outside. The sun is shining. The breeze is light. I’m sitting on my upper deck watching turtles and ducks do what turtles and ducks do. And I’m trying to experience sadness. I realize that’s an odd statement to make. If we don’t have to experience sadness why would we? What value is there in it? The problem I have with emotions (and I doubt I’m alone) is that while I often feel…

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Depression is…

Depression is…

My bouts with depression are fewer and farther between these days, and for that I am grateful. But there are still moments, like tonight, when it tries to consume me. It’s in these moments that the doubts, fears, and anxieties that depression feeds are all too abundant. It’s in these moments that I am all too aware of what depression is… depression is living with the reality that there will be times when the thoughts

Happy Birthday, Sophia!

Happy Birthday, Sophia!

A year ago today I was struggling to truly find my voice. My friend, Rita, had come over for dinner on the boat. As we talked through the evening, she encouraged me to write. I had randomly posted some thoughts in some Facebook groups that she thought were share worthy. I wasn’t necessarily convinced, but I know that writing them had been therapeutic for me. I had set up blogs before, mostly for other people. It occurred to me that…

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Accepted AND Approved

Accepted AND Approved

In the past several months, I’ve often been received by individuals either representing themselves or an organization (read that as: church) with the sentiment that they would “accept” me but not “approve” of me identifying as a trans-woman. They say the same would be true for

Visions or Lonliness

Visions or Lonliness

I’ve written about being alone in the past; specifically that we as a culture have lost the art of aloneness. While I am still working toward contentment in being alone and feel like I’m making great progress, I’ve come to the point in my recovery from the divorce that I feel I’m ready for more out of a relationship than casual connection. I have that natural desire to see a friendship grow beyond the random encounter and occasional deeper interaction….

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