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Question #11: Who is Sophia Sojourn?

Question #11: Who is Sophia Sojourn?

(note: scroll to the bottom of the post for the audio version!) That is a very legitimate question. In fact it has come to me in many forms. “That’s a great blog post you shared, please tell Sophia how much I enjoyed it.” “I saw that blog post, I can’t find anyone named Sophia Sojourn on Facebook though” The answer to the question is simple: Sophia is not a “who” but rather a “what.” To be very specific, it is…

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Introducing Trans 101

Introducing Trans 101

The major motivation for migrating the blog to a new space was to have the flexibility of adding more pages. Many of you have requested a resource where you can refer friends (or foes) to learn a little more about what it means (and does not mean) to be transgender. Introducing Trans 101 This is still a work in progress, but there is already a good bit of information published there. I’ll keep working on it the days and weeks…

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Welcome to Our New Home

Welcome to Our New Home

I’m nearly finished with the migration from the WordPress hosted site to our new home on our self-hosted site. There will be a bunch of advantages to this move, but in the meantime there may be some broken links and other issues. I’ve noticed this is specifically true with the links on the FaceBook page. If you’re looking for one of the links below, just click here and it will take you to the site. I’ll keep looking for the…

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Upgrades

Upgrades

Sophia Sojourn is going to be experiencing some much needed upgrades in the comings days. There may be some outages. In which case you can’t read this post and it’s a moot point. But if you’re reading this now and you come back later – you may have issues. OR – in an alternate universe the upgrade will go smoothly and without a bug or a hitch and you will never know the difference. Here’s hoping.  

Question #10: an excuse to sleep with men

Question #10: an excuse to sleep with men

Question #10: “I think that the transgender thing is just and excuse to sleep with men.” This one has come to me twice in the last week. After the eye roll, face palm and deep, deep breaths, I was able to stop and unwind what really bothers me about this statement. First of all it is exactly that: a statement. I doubt that the people who came to this “conclusion” had ever had much meaningful conversation with anyone transgender prior…

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Q&A #8: Peer Reviews

Q&A #8: Peer Reviews

Q: Is your blog peer reivewed? A: Short answer – no. For the sake of clarification, “peer review” refers the process where one’s academic contemporaries review and validate or invalidate their work.  It’s the scholarly version of quality control. (Just imagine an “inspected by #6” sticker on the publication somewhere!)  Please assume that anything and everything you read on the internet – espescially something labled a “blog” (short for “web log” incase you were wondering) is not peer reivewed. In…

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Q&A#7 – Follow up on privilege 

Q&A#7 – Follow up on privilege 

Follow up on Privilege I had a very supportive and encouraging friend offer some feedback regarding my post on male privilege. What specifically caught her eye was my acknowledgement that I may have benefited from other “privileges” such as “white-privilege”. Her comments were very much appreciated and thought provoking. I wanted to take a moment to clarify my statement and my perspective on privilege. First of all, I don’t feel entitled to any privilege – my only reason for

Q&A#6 – dating preference

Q&A#6 – dating preference

When your divorce is final, do you plan on dating and if so, will you date men or women? This is a question that has come up frequently both in conversation and with my therapist. While it is something I think about, it’s not something I’ve spent too much time on just yet. Here’s why: …as the question mentions, my divorce is not final. And when I say it’s not “final”, I’m not just referring to the legal process, but…

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Q&A#5 – loss of male privilege 

Q&A#5 – loss of male privilege 

How do you deal with the loss of male privilege? Just at a point of clarification, “male privilege” is best defined as “a sociological term that refers quite generally to any special rights or status granted to men in a society, on the basis of their sex or gender, but usually denied to women.” The best answer I could come up with was that I never really saw it as something to be lost. I’m sure I experienced the phenomenon…

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