When did you realize you were gay?
Gender identity and sexual identity are not the same issues. Although both deal with a departure from gender norms, GLB folk are usually very secure in their gender identity – it is whom they are attracted to that drives their sexual identity. T folk may be attracted to the gender they identify with or the opposite gender.
From the start of this journey, I have identified as asexual. I’m starting to believe that may have been a default from a lack of sexual identity. Without a strong congruent gender identity as a foundation, it is difficult and rather confusing to try and develop a sexual identity.
I’ve lately been toying with the identity “Pre-sexual”. Will likely have more on that in the transitioning category of the blog.