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Another 24 Alive

Another 24 Alive

The circle of “Overcomers” where I sit as often as I can has many valued traditions. One of those traditions is that on the last Saturday of every month, we honor those in our midst celebrating one or multiple years of recovery from what ever it was that was hurting/killing them. On April 12 of 2015 I sat outside a different church service in uncontrollable tears. My divorce had just been finalized that week and subject of the message that…

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Drops

Drops

I sat awake last night memorized by the gentle rainfall. Rain is always a mixed blessing on the boat. On the one hand the drops hitting the tin roof that covers the slips create their own sort of meditative melody. It’s a somewhat natural song that combines with the wind and the tiny splashes of rain drops hitting to lake itself creating a musical effect that shouts both strength and peace in one single verse. On the other hand, the…

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When Comes the After?

When Comes the After?

I feel like I need to apologize to all my Facebook friends. But I’m also very aware that as a people-pleasing codependent, my favorite two words are “I’m sorry”. For most of my life they have been a magic combination to make all that was stressful in a relationship go away. Often, as is the case with my current Facebook world, the stress comes from totally imagined offenses. So I will resist the urge to actually apologize. The imagined offense:…

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The Serenicolon

The Serenicolon

I am very privileged to have found a local fellowship of Christians to whom I can intensely relate. Serenity Church is a recovery based church and it is full of people who, like me, have found themselves on the brink of loosing it all, finally saw how powerless we are over what tries to kill us, and by the grace of God spend each day just trying to do the next right thing. There is so much about the buzz…

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Unruined

Unruined

I’ve taken the leap, bit the bullet, made a lifelong commitment. No its not a relationship or a job; I’ve simply acquired some new decor.

Recovering PeeP: The Saga of Sally

Recovering PeeP: The Saga of Sally

It has been a little while since I wrote anything about my people pleasing (PeeP) tendencies. Actually, in my world, “people pleasing” is a dressed up, church-pew friendly term for codependency. In my personal journey, codependency has been much like a drug or alcohol addiction, except that I have been too afraid of what someone else might think or say about me to ever actually take a pill, use a drug or get drunk. People are my drug of choice….

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